What Do I Need?

As some of my readers (if not all of you) know, I have cut ties and returned my collar to my now former Master.  He proved to be less than honorable and honest with me. And that is the last i will say on the matter. He has been handled and i have washed my hands of him.

But in the past two conversations with another Dom, I have started to wonder; what do i really want in/from a Dominant?

Below are the musing of today,

and will probably be expanded on as i learn and grow.

And some may call me demanding for what i write

and what i say that i need/require

But they can just stuff it.

• COMMUNICATION: BIG BIG BIG thing.  Open and honest communication of limits and needs, be it physical, emotional, mental (yes there is a difference), turn ons, turn offs, situations and health issues. Neither party is psychic, so nothing can be magically understood.
   
  
• Physical touch is key for me. I have to have that touch, that reminder that my Dom is there, that i am safe, that i am protected. To not have that touch, is to not feel connected. Be it a caress, a spank, a squeeze of the hand/shoulder/arm etc. the reminder that the Dom is there is important.
  
  
• Be attentive (and i know this point is in contrast to point #1, but stick with me here): I have a problem putting my emotions into spoken words, so my body speaks for me.  Know my ticks and twitches, know my physical limitations and don't stress them.  I am a dancer first and foremost; my body is my expression. My hips are not as they used to be, nor are my knees after my car accident back in 2007. A pillow or padding for my knees when i kneel, permission to lean right or left when my body starts to complain. If you need me to clarify when discussing something, be gentle and coax the clarification out, do not push and prod; because then i'll just get my back up and will snap back at you.
  
  
• Know my limits: i cannot stress enough that if you push me and push my hard limits that i will push back, and it will not be pretty. No means no means NO!! Physical limits can be worked around as stated above with modifications of postures, positions, procedures etc. Hard limits are non negotiable.
  
  
• Family First: My biggest concern in my life is my family.  Above all else the wellbeing of my family is first and foremost in my mind.  If you can't handle that fact then you aren't the Dom for me.
  
  
• I live at home: which means that me entertaining you at my home will be merely as a house guest and as a friend, not as your submissive. If i lived by myself, things would be different.  The ability to train me at your residence, or at a mutually agreed upon location is not only important but necessary.
  
  
• My Wolf, Rose: Rose is a big part of who i am, and is also the reason why i am a switch. She is my wolf, my alter ego. The visceral and primal part of my psyche. She is the Dominant persona, the Queen Bitch, the one that  each submissive will know when they encounter my dominant side.  For a Dominant to receive my full submission, She must feel a call, be it to a wolf preferably, but a strong dominant animal and the animal must be strong enough to dominate her. If she's not dominated, she'll not submit. 

I am sure that there will be more, but it is late for me and i cannot think of more.